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Today’s Affirmation:

I deserve to have loving and positive people around me including family members, friends, colleagues and superiors. I accept them into my life now!

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Gratitude | 16 July 2017

  1. Woke up at 5 a.m.
  2. Solat Subuh, Zohor, Asar, Isyak.
  3. Meditated (Positive Thinking Meditation & The River of Time).
  4. Did laundry.
  5. Ate Dominos (lunch) & KFC (dinner).
  6. Watched a few episodes of CSI Vegas, Undercover Boss and Celebrity Family Feud.
  7. Read up on Margin.
  8. Watched D.O’s teaser.
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Own It!

I just signed up for a free online course on Time Ownership. By completing this week-long course, I will – among other things – have greater clarity on my values, overcome procrastination, yet have time for all the things that are important to me.

So, the first email asked me to answer 3 questions:

  1. What is my biggest challenge when it comes to Time Ownership?

    Mindfulness. I tend to think about work when I’m home and vice versa. If I can be fully present at work and at home, I think I would have better ownership of my time.

  2. Why do you want better control of your time?

    I feel like my time isn’t mine. I constantly feel like I’m trading time for money, which means I have a tendency to focus on work when I should be focusing on myself and my family. I have a tendency to allow work anxieties to bully me into prioritising work. I end up resenting work when I do love it and find fulfilment through it. But if I’m being completely honest, I do feel like a slave to work 80% of the time. I also have this limiting belief that having a well-paying job will not allow me to have a life.

  3. What are your top 3 values (what matters to you)? Is there a disconnect between your current behaviour and those 3 values?

    My top 3 values are myself, my family and my career. I won’t say that there is a disconnect but rather there is a competition between these priorities. Priority No 3 tends to dominate Priorities number 1 and 2.

    I look forward to the next email and learning more about Time Ownership. I know that I always have a choice. No one is pointing a gun to my head to carry on living the way that I do, especially if I am unhappy with the situation. I may not have complete control of the situation but I do have control of how I respond to those situations. I hope to learn to have better responses to them.

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Work It!

I am always looking for new affirmations to recite during my morning commute. Recent events at work made me focus on work and relationships at the office.

I found two websites which have pretty good affirmations. I’m copying and pasting them below for easy reference.

AFFIRMATIONS AT WORK:

  1. It is easy for me to keep a positive attitude at my job
  2. I always have at my disposal all the patience I need
  3. I am peaceful with whatever happens at work
  4. I now choose to look at the positive aspects that my job has
  5. I communicate easily with everyone
  6. I add positive value to the work I produce
  7. It is fun for me to complete my tasks on time
  8. I am grateful for the job I have and all the possibilities it gives me
  9. I contribute positively to the environment at work
  10. I appreciate all facilities I have at my work place
  11. I know exactly how to plan and execute my work
  12. Everyone at my work place benefits from my positive attitude
  13. I release all my negative thoughts about my current job
  14. It is a joy for me to help others at work
  15. Every day I strive to do a good job
  16. I appreciate all that I have learned through my job
  17. I have the power to bring in a positive attitude at work daily

(Source: The Benefits of Positive Thinking) I am always enjoying myself at

  1. I find it easy to keep a positive attitude in regards to work
  2. I am always enjoying myself at work
  3. I am confident
  4. I am happiest when I put my soul into my work*
  5. I enjoy going to work
  6. I am good at my job
  7. I find it easy to get along with my work colleagues
  8. I always look forward to going to work
  9. I am just naturally motivated and driven
  10. I effortlessly get through my work day

*Edited to suit my context

(Source: Free Affirmations.org)

Sometimes, saying these affirmations, even silently in my head, sounds cheesy. My trick is to say it in my best British accent impersonation to make it sound regal. ROTFL! For some reason, it sounds more serious and I believe my affirmations better. Law of Attraction is all about genuine feeling. You need to truly believe for it to work. Give it a try and let me know how it works for you!

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A Good Day Starts the Night Before

By now, I have an established morning Law of Attraction (LoA) routine. However, I tend to forget to end the day with a night routine. I’m working on it and I think this video helps.

It makes sense to have a nightly LoA routine because a good day starts the night before. While you should use moments shortly after you wake up to cite affirmations (such as while showering and getting ready for work), why not take that few extra steps the night before to visualise a successful day. As always, don’t forget to thank God for a blessed day (behaving as if) and all the blessings that you already have in your life.

I truly believe that Allah, God, the Universe or whatever higher power you believe in, does not condone nor reward “careless” behaviour. For instance, if you receive abundance and you’re not thankful for it, your abundance will be temporary. So, that is why showing your gratitude through your actions is key. If you’re a Muslim, you need to strive to pray five times a day to show your gratitude. Praying does not make you “religious”, it simply makes you Muslim because it is one of the five pillars of Islam.

Trust me, praying is life-changing, and this article is a testament to it.

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Abundance Comes from Frugality

I can’t recall where I read or heard this, but I remember being told that abundance comes to those who know how to use it wisely and sparingly. It appears that Allah will reward you for managing your wealth wisely.

If you are wasteful and careless in your expenditure, chances are you will not receive abundance. At best, your abundance state will be temporary or short-lived.

At the surface, this may seem to contradict the Law of Attraction. Those who subscribe to this law will tell you that you shouldn’t operate from a mindset of lack because that will attract or perpetuate even more lack.

But by that same logic, wastefulness begets wastefulness. So no matter how much abundance you receive, spending carelessly will make you constantly un-abundant. As with everything, you need to exercise responsibility for whatever you receive. I refuse to accept that any higher power will reward bad behaviour. All actions have repercussions. Good begets good. Bad begets bad.

So, if you want abundance in your life, you need to have an abundant mindset. You need to give more in order to receive more. “Give more” is not the same as “spend more”, which tends to be spending on yourself. If anything, the Law of Attraction is all about being selfless, wise and responsible. Insya-Allah, you will receive true abundance.

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Expect the Best and Get It

I have been reading a highly insightful book this past few weeks. It’s called The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr Norman Vincent Peale, which I picked up from Bangsar Village II’s Borders Express bookstore.

I bought it because the summary on the back cover said it was released pre-The Secret era. A book that (may have) inspired the phenomenon? I had to pick it up!

I just finished Chapter 7: Expect the Best and Get It and it’s probably my favourite one so far. I have read about the concept of “acting as if” (behaving as if you already have what you want) before, but I never fully grasped it until now. The idea is simple: if you expect the day to be wonderful, (chances are) it will be. Expect everything to go south, and the day may just be as dreadful as you imagined.

After reading the chapter, I tried some of the tips on myself. The author provided many Christian-based affirmations, so I worked around that. I think things have turned out well for me.

In the morning, as I walk to the train station or to the office, I silently repeat affirmations such as:

  • I expect the day to be nothing less than wonderful.
  • I expect myself to be more kind, compassionate, loving, understanding, supportive, magnanimous and selfless today. I expect to receive the same from others today because I attract what I give.
  • I expect meetings to be short and sweet yet productive.
  • I expect today to be filled with laughter, merriment, happiness, forgiveness, closeness, love.
  • And so on. You get the drift.

The verdict?

I did have a great day today. It was filled with laughter, love, support, kindness, merriment, forgiveness, appreciation. There were probably some sad things about today too, but I was too busy focusing on the things that did work out as I had expected.

By expecting the best for me, I end up having plenty to be thankful for.

  • For the first time in many months, my bank balance is much more that it ever was at the end of the month. I did expect to save up some pocket money for the trip to Seoul in November and I’m happy it is working out as planned.
  • I have been receiving lots of lunch treats lately.
  • I’ve got a seat on the train all the way to and from work far more times than I had to stand this past two weeks.
  • I’m discovering great music on Spotify through some random playlist and I have truly enjoyed the new songs I chance upon.

There is a part of me that is cynical of this whole “Expect and You Shall Receive” philosophy. But if there is truth in the concept of “self-fulfilling prophecy”, then we might as well expect things to go well instead of to go badly. If things go badly when we expect it, why not expect the best?

So, wake up each morning and expect for your day to go well, smoothly, beautifully. No harm done.