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Let’s Love, EXO-Ls!

First of all, I am an EXO-L. Right now, my Twitter timeline is flooded with my fellow Aeris who are aghast at the audacity of a certain Kpop group — currently enjoying immense popularity in the United States — to brag and “not be humble”.

These tweets naturally irk the fans of the said group. I completely understand and I wish to give my humble opinion on how we all can learn from this experience.

I don’t want to invalidate anyone’s opinion. If you dislike this group, perhaps you have valid reasons for feeling so. But I also feel that if you dislike this group and wish they don’t annoy you any more, there is a workable solution using tips from the Law of Attraction (LoA).

1. If you Hate Them, Stop Focusing on Them

Yes, it IS THAT SIMPLE. If you see them being mentioned on your timeline, block that person, mute him, whatever. I hate to break it to you but what you focus on you magnify. So, stop obsessing about them. Stop being an anti-fan or hater. Don’t waste your energy on them. Try it and soon, you will notice that they will not bother you anymore.

I am a living example of this. In theory, I have all the makings of a fan of this group. In theory, I should like their songs. But I don’t, even after giving the songs a listen. You know why I am not a fan of them? It’s because I don’t focus on them. I don’t bother to find out when their birthdays are, where they were born, what is their star sign. I just don’t give a hoot.

When they appear on my timeline, I read it and move along. Try it. ☺

2. Be Happy for Them

All the fuss about this group makes EXO-Ls appear bitter. Perhaps some fans do think that EXO deserves the attention better. I personally don’t want EXO to get too famous so that I can have them just the way they are. But I digress ☺

If you are one of those fans who want EXO to have the same or even better success, LoA recommends being happy about the success of this other group.

Being bitter or wishing EXO is in the place of this other group (because you think they deserve it more) is actually showing signs of lack. What it does is perpetuate the fact that EXO does not have this thing that you wish them to have. When you focus on not having something, you will attract more of the same (the lack of success, etc).

Being happy for others creates a sense of hope and attracts good fortune your way. The world is everyone’s oyster and everyone has the same chance of being successful. It’s just a matter of time.

But if you continue to hate and be jealous, you are only magnifying the fact that you don’t have what this other person has. As long as you keep this negative attitude, you will forever attract lack.

So, my advice to EXO-Ls is to stop the bickering and stop the bitterness. Be the bigger person and be the first to walk away from stupid fan wars. More importantly, do not focus on hate. Focus on love. Love and celebrate this other group for the the opportunity that God have given them to put the spotlight on Kpop, a genre that we love.

When you focus on love, you attract more love and the hate will disappear. Try this long enough and one day, you will find that you are no longer embroiled in them because you have chosen to focus on the positive.

As EXO would say, saranghaja (let’s love!) ♥

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Manifesting Elyxion in Malaysia’s Concert Tickets

This concert is already sold-out and scalpers are having a field day selling the cheapest tickets at the original price + RM1,000. Ridiculous, right? But somehow I know I am MEANT to be at this concert. It’s my annual date with my boys! How can I bail on them?!

So, I’m throwing caution to the wind and I am making a bold declaration that I am going to secure a bunch of tickets for me and my friends. I don’t know how; I’m leaving that to Allah. I’ve done this before and I know things will work out for me somehow. I don’t need to worry about the mechanics; I just need to have faith.

So, yes, I will be at that concert with my friends, you best believe it!

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A Year of Learning?

Last week, I spent a few days completing an article based on a workshop that my team conducted in line with the International Women’s Day celebration. The workshop was about discovering your voice (i.e yourself).

Writing the article inspired me to challenge myself to be “observant of new opportunities” popping up around me. One particular idea that kept cropping up is data science.

So, I decided to enrol for a free introductory course on Data Science on udemy. It’s a course that tells me what to expect about data science before committing to this new area.

At a glance, the odds seem to be stacked around me already. I am an Arts student through and through. I struggle with subjects like maths and science and have avoided them all of my life. Data Science, as I discovered, is right down the alley of statisticians and the likes.

But I figured I should at least find out what Data Science is all about. I like the idea of using data to gather insights and predict outcomes.

That is one of the things that I want to learn this year. I also want to learn how to create GIFs, edit videos and learn to code. If life begins at 40, then let me celebrate my 40th year of being alive by learning all these skills.

Wish me luck!

 

 

 

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It Feels Good to Be Me

A few days ago, I got my bonus. My performance review for 2017 was lower than the year before, so I expected to get a lower bonus payout this year. Still, that did not prepare me adequately for the moment that I checked my bank account.

Perhaps it is because I had banked on this bonus to fund my belated birthday and anniversary celebration trip to Tokyo with my husband in May. So, when the statement showed a figure lesser than what I received last year, my heart sank.

For a while, I was mad at myself for being ungrateful. Why was I upset when there was still a substantial amount in my bank account? Truth be told, it is a 5-figure amount. It is more than my monthly pay, for sure. Yet, I was upset that it was lesser than before.

Thankfully, I snapped myself out of self-pity mode and focused on what I have. I am grateful that I have a job that even affords me a performance bonus. Some people do not have this benefit; some people do not even have a job. I know deep in my heart that this is my rezeki (allocation). Yes, my superiors decided that I deserved that much, but really it is Allah who made it possible. Whatever amount that I received is what I deserve and what Allah has determined for me.

I would rather receive this amount plus an endless source of rezeki in the form of money, opportunities, free time, ease, comfort, being surrounded by compassionate people who genuinely care about me and all the good stuff than to be blessed with, say, eight month’s bonus which is followed by a series of unfortunate events.

I have faith in Allah that for as long as I remain true to my myself, a loyal servant to Allah, kind, compassionate, loving, understanding, supportive, magnanimous, etc, I will continue to be blessed and protected by Allah.

This realisation really cheered me up. I feel so much better now. I am genuinely happy. I believe I am in a good place right now. I am grateful and contented. Tomorrow is another day and opportunity to try again and keep on pursuing my destiny.

I have my flight tickets and accommodation paid. I am just waiting for my EXO-CBX ticket to materialise. I am confident that there is a good seat at Yokohama Arena waiting for me, with my name on it. I am confident about the future because I know Allah will always provide for me and my family for as long as we remain faithful in our worship.

It really feels good to be me right now 🙂

 

 

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Today’s Affirmation:

I deserve to have loving and positive people around me including family members, friends, colleagues and superiors. I accept them into my life now!

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Gratitude | 16 July 2017

  1. Woke up at 5 a.m.
  2. Solat Subuh, Zohor, Asar, Isyak.
  3. Meditated (Positive Thinking Meditation & The River of Time).
  4. Did laundry.
  5. Ate Dominos (lunch) & KFC (dinner).
  6. Watched a few episodes of CSI Vegas, Undercover Boss and Celebrity Family Feud.
  7. Read up on Margin.
  8. Watched D.O’s teaser.
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Own It!

I just signed up for a free online course on Time Ownership. By completing this week-long course, I will – among other things – have greater clarity on my values, overcome procrastination, yet have time for all the things that are important to me.

So, the first email asked me to answer 3 questions:

  1. What is my biggest challenge when it comes to Time Ownership?

    Mindfulness. I tend to think about work when I’m home and vice versa. If I can be fully present at work and at home, I think I would have better ownership of my time.

  2. Why do you want better control of your time?

    I feel like my time isn’t mine. I constantly feel like I’m trading time for money, which means I have a tendency to focus on work when I should be focusing on myself and my family. I have a tendency to allow work anxieties to bully me into prioritising work. I end up resenting work when I do love it and find fulfilment through it. But if I’m being completely honest, I do feel like a slave to work 80% of the time. I also have this limiting belief that having a well-paying job will not allow me to have a life.

  3. What are your top 3 values (what matters to you)? Is there a disconnect between your current behaviour and those 3 values?

    My top 3 values are myself, my family and my career. I won’t say that there is a disconnect but rather there is a competition between these priorities. Priority No 3 tends to dominate Priorities number 1 and 2.

    I look forward to the next email and learning more about Time Ownership. I know that I always have a choice. No one is pointing a gun to my head to carry on living the way that I do, especially if I am unhappy with the situation. I may not have complete control of the situation but I do have control of how I respond to those situations. I hope to learn to have better responses to them.