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Let’s Love, EXO-Ls!

First of all, I am an EXO-L. Right now, my Twitter timeline is flooded with my fellow Aeris who are aghast at the audacity of a certain Kpop group — currently enjoying immense popularity in the United States — to brag and “not be humble”.

These tweets naturally irk the fans of the said group. I completely understand and I wish to give my humble opinion on how we all can learn from this experience.

I don’t want to invalidate anyone’s opinion. If you dislike this group, perhaps you have valid reasons for feeling so. But I also feel that if you dislike this group and wish they don’t annoy you any more, there is a workable solution using tips from the Law of Attraction (LoA).

1. If you Hate Them, Stop Focusing on Them

Yes, it IS THAT SIMPLE. If you see them being mentioned on your timeline, block that person, mute him, whatever. I hate to break it to you but what you focus on you magnify. So, stop obsessing about them. Stop being an anti-fan or hater. Don’t waste your energy on them. Try it and soon, you will notice that they will not bother you anymore.

I am a living example of this. In theory, I have all the makings of a fan of this group. In theory, I should like their songs. But I don’t, even after giving the songs a listen. You know why I am not a fan of them? It’s because I don’t focus on them. I don’t bother to find out when their birthdays are, where they were born, what is their star sign. I just don’t give a hoot.

When they appear on my timeline, I read it and move along. Try it. ☺

2. Be Happy for Them

All the fuss about this group makes EXO-Ls appear bitter. Perhaps some fans do think that EXO deserves the attention better. I personally don’t want EXO to get too famous so that I can have them just the way they are. But I digress ☺

If you are one of those fans who want EXO to have the same or even better success, LoA recommends being happy about the success of this other group.

Being bitter or wishing EXO is in the place of this other group (because you think they deserve it more) is actually showing signs of lack. What it does is perpetuate the fact that EXO does not have this thing that you wish them to have. When you focus on not having something, you will attract more of the same (the lack of success, etc).

Being happy for others creates a sense of hope and attracts good fortune your way. The world is everyone’s oyster and everyone has the same chance of being successful. It’s just a matter of time.

But if you continue to hate and be jealous, you are only magnifying the fact that you don’t have what this other person has. As long as you keep this negative attitude, you will forever attract lack.

So, my advice to EXO-Ls is to stop the bickering and stop the bitterness. Be the bigger person and be the first to walk away from stupid fan wars. More importantly, do not focus on hate. Focus on love. Love and celebrate this other group for the the opportunity that God have given them to put the spotlight on Kpop, a genre that we love.

When you focus on love, you attract more love and the hate will disappear. Try this long enough and one day, you will find that you are no longer embroiled in them because you have chosen to focus on the positive.

As EXO would say, saranghaja (let’s love!) ♥



Suziemclean is a Piscean who can't swim. She is 40 and married to a wonderful (younger) man who makes her laugh, and finds her corny sense of humour "endearing". She lives with her husband, family and cat in Shah Alam.

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