Before I begin my raya post, I just want to give my 2 cent’s worth on how negative people can be.
I woke up this morning reading two “positive” stories. The first was about a female reporter with LATimes who maintains a blog called the homicide blog. The blog essentially records all the homicide cases happening in LA. It is about giving a face to the names of the victims and letting people know that they were human beings and that they mattered to their families.
The blog entries are rarely long – about 200 words to describe the victim, what they died of and how their family members described them like “hard-working father” etc.
The other article was on Paris’ upcoming trip to Rwanda for a children’s charity called Playing For Good.
The two articles elicited lots of responses but sadly most of them were negative.For the homicide blog, people said that the so-called victims deserved to die because they were gang members. As for Paris’s article, people seriously doubted she would last even a day there – her trip is for 5 days – and how fake the whole thing was. I am thinking, why are we so bothered about whether she can last five days or not? Just like how people have described our first astronaut as only a “flight participant”. Why the negativity?
Sure, you are entitled to your own opinion but you have to be responsible for it too. There’s constructive criticism and there’s criticism for criticism’s sake. What bothers me is that there are more of the latter than the former type of comments. The problem with people is that we tend to judge others even before they begin doing whatever they had set out to do.
We relish the moment someone falls flat on their faces so we can say, “hah! I told you so!”. Well, even if they fail, what gives us the right to say “I told you so”? Wouldn’t it be better to say, “better luck next time”?
It seems easier – and strangely cooler – to be cynical than to be optimistic. Wrong! Negativity saps not only your energy but also that of those listening to your venomous thoughts. Since when did being a “meanie” make someone cool or deserving of respect?
Would it hurt to read/listen to something and think “well, good for her!” and end the sentence there before the negativity creeps in? I don’t think it would hurt one bit. Try it. You’ll be a less angry and bitter person for it.